Mommy’s Pet Or Daddy’s Angel?

You know the question “Who do you love more – Mommy or Daddy” which was asked when you were a kid? I never liked it much back then and I still get annoyed when I see people pit the Mom and Dad against each other!

But some of the competitive spirit has started to rub off on me these day grr.Thanks To Atul ! I never used to get annoyed before when baby M stopped crying when she went to someone else, or if she became happier to see Atul. It is good that they like others too right? And the times when she did come to me and stop crying or when she misses me and cries for me, I used to find it adorable seeing Atul’s sad puppy face. I mean it was funny that Atul felt so hurt if she “liked me better” (if u want to call it that)! I had always been “secure” in the knowledge that she has no choice but to love me u know..I Mean, She was living inside me…I am the MOTHER..I spend all my time (almost:)) taking care of her. How can she possibly not like me?! 😛

But off late I have this urge to start running this race. Especially after seeing Atul gloat every time she DOES go to him happily! So sorry Atty boy, now I have become a serious contender to win the “I like Mommy Better” title. What makes this competition worse is Baby Girl Apparel! All of them proclaim “Daddy’s Sweetheart”, or “Daddy’s Little Darling” Or “Daddy’s whatever” with Mommy nowhere in the picture.

Sigh..I am bound to get slightly combative don’t you think? So nowadays when Atul is not able to control her crying at times and she becomes all cozy and quiet after coming to me, I blush on the inside with this misplaced sense of vanity. And when she jumps to her dad when he comes home and refuses to come to me, I have started feeling pangs of jealousy. I now console myself thinking that when she is hungry, sleepy, troubled etc etc only I can calm her down..She can go for her play time to Papa, but in times of real needs, she comes to Mamma 😀

Muhahahhaha  So, Game On Baby M’s Daddy? 😉


The World From Baby M’s View

So what does a baby’s world look like??.. Here is a sample of Baby M’s schedule
8:30 AM : Stretchhhhhhhhhhh…”Oh what a beautiful morning..I feel like singing baaaaaaaaabaaa vavavaavaa oooooh aaaaaaah And wait is that today’s newspaper ? I need to know what is going on in this world..and yes I shall read it my way 😛

She crushes the paper..Makes happy sounds..crushes it some more..rolls around with the paper wrapped around herself elated with the  crunchy sounds that it makes until I snatch them all away!! 🙂

9:00 AM :  It is time for daddy to leave so while checking out the traffic status on the terrace Baby M Sunbathes. Its then play time while Mommy does some household work stuff.

Yayyy Now that I am alone I can go for all the things that Mommy never lets me play with”  So M centipedes herself to the wipes and the tissue boxes, the telephone wires, the chairs and the chappals! Once she gets hold of the tissues or the wipes, she gleefully pulls out all the tissues..Am sure She must be thinking “Wheee Its so much fun to pull this white stuff…It just keeps coming out..Me Likeyyy” .  It is funny how we keep buying her toys and how she carelessly discards her toys when she spots any random thing at home like the remote, or the mobile or my plate or spoon or anything which isn’t a toy basically! 🙂

10:30 AM : Its the time for a batho…( To rhyme with disco :D) ..Massage and then bath for the baby..Thankfully Baby M loves to take bath and splashes around a lot.”Splash Splash..Water is the coolest thing on earth!“. She is also just coming to terms with “cause and effect” and hence loves to play with the mug and watch the water spill when she tumbles it over again and again and again!

11:15 AM : Hmmmm..”Zzzzzzzzzzzz Massage and Hot water Bath Make me veryy Sleeepppppyyy“.

1:00 PM : “Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaah…My mommy left me alone..Waaaaaaaaaaaah..I think it is time to teach her a lesson by rolling to the edge of the bed..It looks like fun toooo“..

Ahem, but Mommy now keeps a watchful eye though 😀

1:30 PM : Messy Food Time Follows. Baby M loves to “wallow” in the Dal I try to feed her. She will go for the cup, put her hands in the dal and rub it all over herself, her face, her hair, my hands. She will grip the spoon really tightly and shake it up and down. Usually I just let go and get another spoon to feed her! Ofcourse Then she aims for the new spoon, hits it out of my hand with the dal flying around! Once the Mission:Feed Baby is done, the whole place looks yellow..Baby M’s head to toe covered with dal, the surrounding areas – yellow, floor – yellow , my clothes – yellow!! I wonder how much of it really goes in. Pheww…

2:00 PM – 2:45 PM : Masterchef Australia. “This food looks so much better than what Mommy gives me. Seriously ! Why does she watch it if she is not going to make it! ” Pout..

2:00 PM – 4:00 PM : Rock and Rolll babyyyy! Okay She doesn’t rock as much as she rolls 🙂 But boy does she roll !  She manages to get around the length and breadth of the living room by rolling around..I usually find her under the sofa, under mats, chairs, or in a corner trying again and again to roll even more . :) is hilarious. She’ll interchange between sitting , lying down on her stomach and rolling atleast 10 times in 3 minutes! One minute I find her sitting next to her small chair, the next minute she is lying down under the chair and the next minute she is back up with the chair upside down  dragging it around and fiddling with the plastic cover on it!! Very “mechanic” like :)) lol

4:00 PM – 5:00 PM Zzzzzz..Phew!! Baby M Tired after doing all that work , not to mention the rolling

After 7 PM : Papa is here..”Yayyy..Mommy is boring now, I need Papa to entertain me now”. She literally jumps out of my arms to go to her Dad! (Of course , Mommy doesn’t mind one bit! 😀)

Welll Anyhow..So don’t want to bore you with minute by minute details of what baby M does ..atleast all in one go :)..will let you in on more in the next post about her

Brand New Role

I cannot believe it has been 11 months since I last blogged.  Actually I can believe it. I have been busy after all. I stepped into a new role on May 24..I am now officially a — drumrolll please —- brand new MOM 🙂 Yup it has finally happened , the “any good news” questions have come to rest at last (for the time being I presume!). It has still not really “sunk” in that I am a “mother” and its almost been half a year with this designation. I mean first off, it is such a weirdly different experience to have an actual human being come out of you..and suddenly you have this helpless creature totally dependent on you for everyyyy small and big thing. Then the initial few weeks you end up feeling like a cow (a clueless one at that!) It felt like all I was doing was feed her and this was when she slept for around 17 hours a day! Somehow I never had time to do anything else..Cooking was taken care of by my mom-in-law, all my multifarious “errands” were heeded to by my mom and grocery shopping was my father in law’s duty. Now that I think back, what the H did I do with all the free time I had? Guess time just flew me being dazed about the status change, physically I felt fine but when everyone asks you to take rest and nap, you HAVE to follow the advice right? 😀

I feel like I have graduated from a clueless mom to a know-it-all-or-well-google-is-there kinda mom 🙂 Here are some thens and nows (then = more than 3/3.5 months back and now = now (duh!))

Then : I needed 2 people to help me feed her. I was so confused about which position to use and all that crap.There was a point when my husband would demonstrate  positions in which I could feed..That was a priceless moment! haha..

Now : I can do it with one hand tied up ;). And in any position..Ha..(Okayy “It” refers to feeding btw ahem)

Then : I sterilize anything and everything that goes near the baby

Now : I give it a cursory wash with water. I justify myself saying “immunity will develop this way”)

Then : I kept asking people I met about the whys and whats and the hows

Now : I give gyan to people I meet about labor, babies , their feeding habits, their sleeping habits and other topics they care to hear about.

Then : I couldn’t believe I was baby M’s mom and didn’t get senti for a long time

Now :  I behave like a mom to other kids sometimes!! and  I am quite senti about my baby poochoo wooochooooo my cupppyycakkkeee. 😀

Then : I felt completely clueless when she cried. Baby Centre said there were some 6 different typse of cries. To me all of them sounded the same and I felt frustrated and helpless during her colic phase..

Now : Once the colic phase and the “unknown” crying stopped, things came under control and I have actually started decoding her cries and actions now (more or less :D)

Then : She used to cry harder when she saw me(I am guessing I reminded her of her hunger?)

Now : She actually stops crying when she comes to me (Awwwwwwww)

Then : I was really reluctant to put up her pics and get on video chat with her (I was a bit superstitious for some reason)

Now : I just need an excuse to show her off everywhere

Then : I was scared that the laptop/tv screen radiation will do some harm

Now : Baby M enjoys watching TV. She particularly likes Masterchef Australia 🙂

Then : I used to refer to her as “it” sometmes

Now : I can’t stop talking about baby M as baby M 🙂

Anyhow so now she is almost 5.75 months, Baby M can roll over  (which raises my BP many a times) and sit as of now (though she can’t raise herself to that position which frustrates her to no end)..I feel much more in control of things (and as I write this she proved how wrong I was ..Read on here ). I think I have come to terms to being a mom, I feel more “adulty” if u know what I mean..I can entertain her on my own and don’t think to myself “Oh when will Atul come back from office and take over” (Actually I do feel that sometimes, but I think I can manage on my own too). And now I think she actually likes me. I mean she becomes pretty happy when she sees me (sigh my heart does melt !!) and yes finally I think she appreciates more than just my feeding skills 🙂